Ever been in a situation where you’ve felt overlooked, overwhelmed, or underappreciated? Where you wished people would stop what they’re doing or start doing what you need? Well, you’re not alone – we’ve all been there. The reality is, we often fail to engage in the conversations needed to seek the changes we desire.

Here are 7 keys to help you turn the tide and start getting what you really want:

🗣️ Don’t Assume Others Are Mind Readers: Complaining won’t solve problems, and whining won’t fulfill needs. Take responsibility for clearly communicating your desires. Others can’t read your mind, so be clear about what you want.

🚀 Be Bold in Your Requests: You’ll rarely receive more than what you have the courage to ask for. Be confident, courageous, and specific in your requests. Don’t dilute them; go for what you truly desire.

⏰ Specify What and When: Vague requests often lead to unmet expectations. Clearly define both the “what” and the “when” to avoid misunderstandings. For example, “Get the monthly sales report to me by 2 pm on Friday.”

🚫 Be Clear About Boundaries: You teach others how to treat you. Let them know what you will and will not tolerate. Be upfront about your expectations and stand your ground.

💬 Forget Hints – Be Direct: Dropping hints rarely gets the message across. If you want change, speak directly and explicitly. Avoid passive comments and address the issue head-on.

🪙 Ditch the Martyr Act: Put your needs on your priority list. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Avoid the guilt-driven martyr act and prioritize your well-being.

🙅‍♂️ Don’t Make ‘No’ Mean More Than It Does: Rejection is part of life. When people say no, accept it gracefully and move on. It’s not a personal attack; it’s a part of the process.

Asking for what you truly want, whether from yourself, others, or life, is the key to breaking free from frustration and resentment. So, dare to ask, and you might just find yourself getting what you’ve always wanted. 🌟🗝️

Bonus: A big survey asked 150,000 people with jobs if they ever asked for a raise. Here’s the outcome.